joy in motherhood

My friend Liz teaches Young Women and asked if I'd share my thoughts on Joy (since its my middle name), particular to the current stage in my life. This is what I said:


I've heard from a lot of women that having small children is one of the toughest and most difficult times in life. Having to take care of so many of their physical needs such as making meals that won't be complained about, potty training, constant messes, mounds of laundry, fighting with siblings, learning their boundaries and often pushing those boundaries. Many seem to get overwhelmed, I feel fortunate that I am able to see past those obstacles and truly find joy in the now of their lives, as well as mine. In fact, I adore this stage of my life so much, I worry that that all the other stages just won't compare. I'll hear older women say to "cherish this time" and to "soak it all in." I recognize that this time in my life is fleeting. In fact, I wish I could bottle up this time and keep it with me always. I suppose I will, with the memories, but I know that eventually they won't want to run to me with their arms outstretched just to give me a hug and tell me they love me. They will be too embarresed to blow me a kiss at school because their friends will laugh, or won't want to sing with such passion because they'll feel somewhat inhibated. I'm sure that time will come. I mourn it, but I expect it. If it turns out that doesn't happen, I will be doubly blessed.

It is so fun for me to watch them progress as the stumbly learn how to read, and receive encouragement from an older sibling. I love to see them hug and support each other, and I love to see their thirst for knowledge about things for the world, as well as gospel principles. I am constantly trying to teach them to be kind and loving to others, to reach out to those that are lonely or who need a friend. And that most of all, we, as a familiy, should be each others best friends, our biggest supporters. I think kindness is one of lifes most important lessons. If I lose my temper, I make sure they get my apologies as I expect them to do the same. I try to teach by example, but in doing so, I am constantly finding ways I need to better myself. This is the golden time. The time when they will listen, soon enough, that time may pass.

I think the word "joy" is just so descriptive, and one we should incorporate into our lives. It's not just being happy, or getting by, but joy is the ultimate happiness. It is contentness. There is joy in each stage of life. So much to be discovered, to learn, to experience. I had the time of my life when I was single. I had adventures, I traveled, I lived life to the fullest. But there is no other joy that compares to that of motherhood. The blessing that my Father in Heaven has given me, has entrusted me with His children. I try my hardest, sometimes I cry tears in prayer as I seek direction in being the mother that they need, that they deserve. I don't take it personally when they get frustrated with me, or don't do as I've asked them to do, because I know they are just learning. I'm so grateful that I have the gospel of Jesus Christ in my life, and grateful that I have the opportunity to teach my small children that gospel. Truly, they teach me every day how to love as the Savior does.